roccoschili Chapter 613 Unfathomable
Chapter 613 Unfathomable
Chapter 613 Unfathomable
Zheng Bin kept nodding while listening. He carefully analyzed every sentence Zhou Zheng said, trying to find flaws and meanings, and criticized Zhou Zheng ruthlessly.
Zhou Zheng was sweating profusely every time he said a word, and he was so nervous, because he knew that he had criticized Zheng Bin for no reason just now. If the story I'm telling now doesn't sound good, then it is very likely that Zheng Bin will take the opportunity to get mad and punish himself severely. At that time, not only did he fail to fulfill the purpose of educating Zheng Bin, but he was educated instead. That's a shame.
A man can shed blood and wipe away tears, but he can't lose face. Once the face is lost, what should he do in the future?
Although Zhou Zheng was terribly nervous in his heart, he was afraid that if he said a word or sentence poorly and would give Zheng Bin a chance to criticize himself, his face never showed such a nervous expression, and he even deliberately showed a calm attitude. I want to confuse Zheng Bin in this way and make him relax his vigilance.
"Although the feelings and friendship between us are very deep, it is difficult for ordinary injuries to fundamentally destroy the foundation of our relationship, but this kind of injury cannot be sustained." Zhou Zheng's eyes widened, and he talked calmly, "So, in order to avoid this kind of particularly big harm, when we get along with each other, we should be open and frank, and say what we think in our hearts, no matter what we say is positive thoughts or negative emotions. .
We are all masculine men, and we don’t need to worry about whether our negative emotions will cause trouble or harm to the other party, because we are all able to bear it, not children, no matter how big the stimulation and blow are, we are also capable of bearing.
Just like what I said just now, if I tell you my negative emotions, it will be of great benefit to you and will not do you any harm. At first glance, this sentence seems very unreasonable, even like nonsense, but in fact, you only need to think about it carefully. If you do, you will feel that this sentence is completely wise.
No one is perfect, and people have positive emotions and negative emotions, which complement each other. If a person only has positive emotions but no negative emotions, the person may not be healthy in itself, and he will be [-]% mentally The problem is either depression or schizophrenia. Would you dare to make friends with such a person?
Therefore, as long as ordinary people will have negative emotions, and if ordinary people have negative emotions, the first choice is to confide in their family members. If the family members do not understand, they will talk to their lovers. Understand your own negative emotions, then maybe this person with negative emotions will find his best friend to confide in.
This is the practice of ordinary people. In the eyes of many people, this method may be the most reasonable and correct. But I want to tell you that the order in which this person finds someone to confide in is wrong, and he should not be the first to go. Talking to family members is a big mistake.
First of all, family members generally have the deepest relationship with you, and they are also the people who worry about you the most. If you tell your family members about your negative emotions and bad thoughts, they will definitely worry about you very much, and they will even try every means To help you, but they ignore one point. Their behavior of caring and trying their best to help you will bring you a lot of extra pressure, and you have very negative emotions and thoughts in your heart , Once these pressures come one after another, then your confession will not only fail to relieve your negative emotions and stress, but will make your negative emotions bigger, which runs counter to the purpose of your initial choice to confide.
If this happens, you will definitely regret it, and you would rather keep all those negative emotions in your heart than choose to talk to your family.
You will think that you are wrong, and you may think that the behavior you choose to confide is wrong, but I can tell you clearly that choosing to confide is the right behavior, but you choose the wrong person to confide in.
For family members, you can only report good news and not bad news, unless something serious happens and you can't handle it alone, or you can only tell the family. Only then is it necessary to tell your family members about those bad things. If it is less than this level, there are only some small bad things, and you have to bear it by yourself.
After talking about the results of talking to family members, let's continue to talk about the results of talking to the one we love.
In the impression of ordinary people, one's lover may be more caring than one's family members, because after all, one's lover is one's favorite person, and may also be the person who will accompany one's life, and may be more suitable for oneself in terms of personality and understanding Rhythm, they may be the ones who understand themselves best.
Because of this kind of cognition, most people will choose to confide to their lovers immediately when they have stress and negative emotions. When they confide, they hope to get comfort from their lovers to relieve their inner pressure. And negative emotions, they even hope that when they express these negative emotions, their lover will love themselves more and even cherish themselves.
But is this really the case? "
Zheng Bin originally tried to find Zhou Zheng's loopholes with full energy, and then took the opportunity to go crazy and criticize him severely, but what surprised him was that Zhou Zhengyi said it as if he had been beaten. Every sentence he said was logical and rigorous, without any flaws, and Zheng Bin even raised his hands in favor of several opinions.
Within a few minutes, Zheng Bin was fascinated by what he heard, completely forgetting that he wanted to find Zhou Zheng's loopholes and get mad.
Just when he was fascinated by what he heard, Zhou Zheng suddenly asked this question, Zheng Bin suddenly reacted, and nodded foolishly: "It should be like this, after all, the person I love the most must be the person who understands me the most, and getting along with my lover There is no pressure when you are in love, even if you expose your weaknesses and weaknesses, there is nothing to be ashamed of, so I think when there is pressure and negative emotions, it is the best way to talk to the person you love the most, as long as If the lover comforts himself a little, then all the pressure and negative emotions will become insignificant."
Zhou Zheng smiled contemptuously, as if he was waiting for Zheng Bin's answer: "Brother Bin, I really didn't expect that you have read so many books since you were young, and you have so much knowledge and insight. Your views will be completely different from those of Star Dou citizens, but to my disappointment, your views are not distinctive at all, so ordinary that even I would despise them."
Zheng Bin blushed, lowered his head in embarrassment, and said hesitantly: "Uh, don't worry about whether my opinion is unique or not. First of all, as long as my answer is correct, there is nothing to be ashamed of. In the hands of the majority, I have the same answer as everyone else, and it proves that I am also very right, isn't it true?"
Zhou Zheng laughed loudly: "Haha, Brother Bin, if you really think so, then I can only say that I am very sorry.
Because the truth is often the most correct in the hands of a few people, most people's thinking has been rigidified by books and various educations, so it is difficult for them to grasp the truth in the first place.
Just like the question I asked you just now, the answer to this question is obvious. A lover is not the best person to confide in, because love is a feeling that can only be produced under the condition of mutual equality. The wealth background and knowledge of two people The level is equal, plus the intelligence level of two people is equal, and the appearance and height are similar, such two people will easily fall in love.
You said that in this kind of love, if a person's status and strength suddenly decline, once the balance is broken, what will happen? "
"Speak up quickly, don't be a fool, the more I say, the more mistakes I make, so you might as well finish it all in one breath."
Zheng Bin said angrily.
Zhou Zheng looked at Zheng Bin with a smile on his face, and felt that his appearance was very funny: "Okay, I won't tease you anymore, I will express all my thoughts next, and let you judge in your own heart, I Are these things correct?
If two people have similar strengths in all aspects, the love between them is the strongest, because one person will not be attached to the other, and this kind of emotional balance will make the two go further.
But once this balance is broken, cracks begin to appear.
If you think that finding your lover to talk about your inner stress and negative emotions is the most effective way to relieve stress, then I can tell you that this idea is very wrong.
You find your lover and pour out your inner anxiety and negative thoughts. On the surface, the person you love will definitely say some high-sounding comforting words, and will even show a look of caring about you and worrying about you, but his true thoughts Do you think so?
Certainly not, your lover will carefully analyze the source of your negative emotions and where the pressure comes from. If the causes of the stress and negative emotions are small things, then he will wonder in his heart, how can such a small thing make you He turned into this weak look?Wasn't he particularly strong before?How could he, who used to be so cowardly and unrestrained in talking and laughing, become so cowardly all of a sudden?It seems that what he showed in front of me in the past were all false appearances, deliberately pretending, this is his true face.
Originally, I still wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. It turned out that he was such a weak wimp. It was all because I was blind before that I actually liked him. After this incident, I have to carefully consider whether to continue my relationship with him. .
Did you hear me?This is the truest thought of your lover after hearing your confession. He will think that you are so useless. To cry and cry over such a small matter, and even find himself to confide, is not a man's behavior at all. Very disrespectful.
After you confide there, you feel that the relationship between the two is closer, and maybe you are not far away from getting married, but after a few days, you will find that your lover suddenly ignores you, and even after a while He directly proposed to break up, and then you still criticized with a blank face, not knowing what the problem was, and you would have the cheek to go to your lover and ask him what he did wrong.
Once this situation occurs, your lover will definitely not express his true inner thoughts, he will only tell you that the two of you are not suitable, so get together and separate, and don't come to him again.
Of course you are very angry when you hear such words. That kind of cheap self-esteem and bad temper will immediately drive you to turn around and leave, no longer putting down your body to beg the other party to change their minds.
So here, the indestructible love between you and your lover is completely over, and in the final analysis, the reason why this relationship will be fragmented is that you made a stupid behavior when you were in love and asked him to confide in yourself negative emotions and stress. "
Zheng Bin opened his mouth wide, looking shocked, he forced himself to think that Zhou Zheng was talking nonsense, but in his heart, he felt that what Zhou Zheng said was very reasonable, and he thought about it in another way, if his If your lover suddenly confides those negative emotions and pressures in front of you, maybe you will also have such thoughts in your heart, thinking that the other person is too weak and maybe not worthy of your love.
Zhou Zheng had already understood Zheng Bin's thoughts from his face, so he immediately stretched out his hand and said sharply: "Don't deny it, let alone find other reasons to deny my statement, because what I said These are true truths, if you don’t believe me, you can have a chance to try it in the future, and see if the other party will kick you after you and your lover talk about your stress and negative emotions.”
Zheng Bin wiped the sweat off his face, pretending to be serious and said: "I'm not as boring as you, and I've spent all my energy and wisdom on these useless questions. After you said you've thoroughly understood these things, What's the use? It doesn't help us play football in the future, even if it proves that you are right, what reward is there? Do you still want to write these books and become a well-known best-selling author of love?"
Zhou Zheng scratched his head, seriously considering the possibility of Zheng Bin's statement: "Don't even mention it, if you really make your debut as an emotion expert, you might really make a lot of money, because now urbanites are more or less Or at least there are relationship problems, as long as you pretend to be unfathomable, and then say some truths that everyone agrees with, then those readers will definitely think you are an unfathomable love expert, and it will be easy to make money.”
Zheng Bin rolled his eyes at Zhou Zheng, wondering what the hell was going on in this kid's mind all day long?Is he still serious?If he continues to talk nonsense like this, he will drive him crazy.
(End of this chapter)